Okay… time for some honesty.
I mean, I’m always honest with you guys! But I don’t think I’ve ever opened up as much as I’m about to right now.
If you’ve been rocking with me for a while, you may have come to realize one sad fact: my blog is inconsistent.
My sporadic blogging has existed since early on. I make plans, set goals but just can get it together! Now is as good a time as any to just come right out and say it. And I know I’m not alone. You may have an inconsistent blog for the very same reason.
And here it is…
I’m a Perfectionist
If this isn’t a problem you face, you might think that, as a perfectionist, I should have it all together, that I shouldn’t have any issues with getting things done. You may even think this is a good thing. It’s great to have standards, right?
Wellll… uhhh… lemme break it down for you.
The Problem With Perfectionism
The thing about perfectionism is this: yes, I have standards, I want the thing “done right” and done well… but that’s exactly the problem! All of those expectations will likely mean that I’ll get absolutely NOTHING done or it won’t get done quickly.
Before I Sit Down to Write…
Why does it take me a while to sit down and start typing? Fear.
Perfectionism, in my case, creates this debilitating and quite annoying fear that when I get ready to put “pen-to-paper”, I’m not gonna express myself the way I really want to, I won’t get the facts straight, I’ll say too much, I won’t say enough… oh, you have no idea! I don’t wanna just throw something together and have you all sitting there reading like…
It may sound silly to someone who doesn’t have this problem. “Girl, why do you care what other people think?! Just write!”
Hmph. If only it were that easy!
Okay, so What IS Perfectionism, REALLY?
Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations.
Seeee?! Wikipedia GETS ME! *cries in a corner*
Trust me, this is not on purpose! I DO NOT want to be this way! This has been going on since I was in school. I’d wait until the absolute last minute to do a paper or book report, not because I was lazy, but because I literally COULD NOT!
Perfectionism ⇒ Procrastination ⇒ Paralysis
Besides debilitating, perfectionism is downright paralyzing. I’d reach a point where, no matter how well I’d rock that book report or how great an idea I have for a blog post, I’m so concerned with it turning out well that I can’t even get started. I’ve talked myself out of it. Subconsciously, I’m like… “why start if it’s not gonna be right?” Boom. Inconsistent blog.
UGH! So, sooooo annoying!
But I’m Working On It
Listen, I have 20-something posts sitting in my drafts because of this nonsense. How bout you? Let’s work on this together.
Get Inspired – I’ve noticed that a blogger friend of mine and a couple other bloggers I follow get to the point fairly quickly and keep their words few. I tend to write the way I speak, which is a LOT, so I’ll have to work on getting my point across with less words. They show me that it’s possible and inspire me to keep trying!
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Just Write – I’m putting this tip to work right now! *pats back* It doesn’t always take me forever to get a post done. I’ve found that when I get over myself, stop over thinking and just start typing, the words flow and I’m done much faster. Once I get it all out, I can always edit afterwards… like… I’m doing right now. 😉
Get Help – I’m a fan of Periscope and regularly watch a few bloggers and businesswomen who give tips on productivity. I also take advantage of FREE webinars when I can. These help me at least create a framework for being more productive.
Set Small, Realistic Goals – Because I know I have an issue, there are some tips from those webinars, etc. that just won’t work for me, not now. So, I’m honest with myself and take what I can realistically use to my benefit. Being mentally able to blog consistently won’t happen overnight. I challenged myself to post everyday this week but who was I kidding?! A more realistic goal would have been every other day or 3x/week… and look, I’ve accomplished that! *cue noisemaker*The no. 1 Reason Why Your #Blog is Inconsistent + 4 Steps to Fixing It! #betterblogging Click To Tweet
WHEW!! Feels good to get that off my chest!
Oh, and to those of you loyal subscribers who’ve come here looking for hair advice on Hair Tip Tuesday only to find a fashion post from two weeks ago, please accept my deepest apologies. I mean well. Really, I do.
During our icebreaker at the Brown Girls Love Brunch this past Saturday, the goal I shared was to blog more consistently. Now, I’m sharing with you! If you’ve been suffering, you’re not alone. Let’s hold one another accountable. 😉
If any of this sounds like you, share with me below! Have you dealt with perfectionism and procrastination? What do/did you do to get over it?